Monday night on The Kickin’ It With KeKe Show, my special guest Author/PreacHER LaKisha Johnson said something that resonated within me. She said, “Give your pain a voice.”
This profound statement touched my soul in a way I cannot describe, but it was freeing.
2020 has been a year of grief for so many people, myself included with the death of our second child. Ryan was only 19 years old, full of life and positive energy. She was fearless and poured light into everyone she encountered. A freshman in college with a bright future, taken suddenly without a warning.
Since her passing, I’ve tried to be strong for my husband and kids, but I find myself in a dark place on most days. My heartaches. My mind gets cloudy, and all I want to do is cry in bed all day.
Hearing my guest speak those words about giving your pain a voice was like a lightbulb switched on. I know it’s okay to speak up and out about my loss.
I encourage anyone who’s experiencing curveballs in life right now or previously to find an outlet so that you can begin to heal. No, it’s not easy and the process doesn’t have a timeline; but I know talking about the hurt, pain, sorrow—will help. It already has for me.
Here are three tips to help give your pain a voice:
1. Write down your feelings. Journaling is a form of therapy. Use it to your advantage.
2. Talk to someone. It doesn’t always have to be a professional, but make sure it’s someone who understands what you’re going through. Make sure it’s someone you trust with your feelings and/or emotions.
3. Visit your loved one’s resting site. This is probably the hardest form of giving your pain a voice, and it’s also the most effective. This puts things into perspective and sets the new normal in your life. Share your thoughts with the one you lost. Tell them how losing them makes/made you feel.
Give your pain a voice so that you can live!
Thanks for Kickin’ It With KeKe!
Until next time, always choose you.💜